The Cost of Staying Small: The Toll and the Emergence
There are times in life when it feels easier to stay hidden beneath the bridge than to step fully into the sunlight of our authentic selves. We shrink, we dim, we contort to fit into spaces that feel safer — paying tolls of silence, suppression, and compromise just to cross into connection.
For so much of my life, I learned to shrink.
>Sometimes it was for safety. Sometimes for acceptance. Sometimes because I believed that was simply what you did — you took up less space so others could take up more. Shrinking became second nature, like slipping into a vacuum bag and letting the air get sucked out until I was a fraction of myself.
But here’s the truth: smallness is not natural. Wholeness is.
The Illusion of Gatekeepers
Along the way, I encountered people and situations that seemed to stand at the crossing points of my life. They acted as though they held the keys, as if the only way forward was through them.
The story they told was: “Give enough of yourself, then maybe you’ll get to cross.”
And for years, I believed it. I shrank and paid. I waited, thinking my path depended on them.
But here’s what I finally learned: those tolls are costly.
The Toll
The word toll carries an old echo — back to mythology, where crossing into the kingdom meant paying the bridge troll. To pass, you had to hand something over.
Metaphorically, this is how passage is framed in our lives. If you want to move faster, pay the toll. If you want to cross into the kingdom, pay the toll. The illusion is twofold: first, that we owe something to another in order to access what is inherently ours, and second, that what we seek lies outside of us, reachable only through payment.
But what does that payment cost us in essence?
Every time we pay the toll, we chip away at our ability to be fully seen. We diminish our creative current, allowing someone else to thrive from it. We weaken the natural field of our energy while strengthening another’s. Over time, the tolls collect, and the price is our aliveness.
We lose authenticity. Our energetic self — the real us — gets covered by the smaller version we put forward. The toll is not just emotional; it’s energetic. Staying small drains the current we need to be visible, creative, and whole.
And then, one day, enough is enough.
The Emergence
Something shifts.
The vacuum bag rips open.
Shoulders drop back.
The heart expands.
The soul says: “Enough.”
The word emergence comes from the Latin emergere, meaning “to rise out, to bring forth.” Broken down, it is energy merging into union — becoming whole. This is the natural state of the soul.
Wholeness rises. Radiance returns. The path clears. And in that moment, we remember: we were rulers of our own lives all along.
When we stop paying tolls and begin to emerge, we reclaim our authentic energetic signature. We create freely. We are seen not as fragments, but as whole beings. In this state, our presence alone becomes creative currency.
The bridge will always be there, along with those who ask us to shrink to cross it. But the invitation of emergence is to step off that path entirely. To stop dimming. To stop handing over your energy for permission slips to exist. Rise into the fullness of your own ruler-ship of self.
Every time you choose emergence, you strengthen the current that carries your voice, your art, your presence. You become a clear signal in a noisy world.
And that clarity? That’s what allows others to see you, resonate with you, and join you in the sunlight of authenticity.
A Blessing for You
So I ask you: where are you still paying tolls?
Where have you been shrinking, trying to fit into envelopes too small for your brilliance?
Where might you finally let your soul expand into wholeness?
Because the bridge was always yours.
The kingdom was always yours.
You always had the crown.
“I was never too much.
The bridge is mine, the crown is mine, the kingdom is mine.
I walk whole.”
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