There are moments when growth feels inexplicably stalled.

Not because of fear.
Not because of lack of effort.
>Not because something is “wrong.”

But because something unseen is holding altitude in place.

Many people sense this without language for it. They feel capable of more clarity, more joy, more momentum, more success…. just more —yet something invisible sets a boundary they can’t seem to cross. No matter how much inner work they do, the rise stops at the same height.

This isn’t a failure of will.
This isn’t a lack of effort or clarity.
It’s a matter of structure.

Belonging Has a Radius

In nature, lift appears when constraint is released.

A balloon tied to a string doesn’t struggle—once freed, it rises naturally.
A cork held beneath water doesn’t resist—it simply waits for pressure to lift.
A bird cannot soar while carrying excess weight.

Human systems function the same way.

Every relationship, family structure, community, or role creates an energetic radius—a shared range of motion that quietly defines how far an individual can expand while remaining within that system.

Energy does not move infinitely or randomly. It follows existing pathways, bonds, and structures, much like current in a circuit or force through a field. When someone remains energetically coupled to a system, that coupling naturally influences their available range of motion.

Most people never consciously agree to this boundary. It isn’t spoken. It lives in loyalty, identity, expectation, and the desire to belong. And over time, that unseen agreement can quietly shape how high—or how freely—someone is able to rise.

The energetic ceiling or radius isn’t imposed through force.
It’s maintained through consent.

Why Growth Sometimes Feels Like Betrayal

Rising often requires leaving a familiar orbit.

When one person begins to expand beyond the shared frequency of a group, tension appears—not because the growth is wrong, but because the system must either reorganize or reinforce its limits.

Many people choose, unconsciously, to self-limit rather than destabilize connection.

They trade altitude for belonging.

This choice isn’t weakness. It’s adaptation.

But adaptation has a cost.

One-Way Support and Invisible Weight

Some connections are balanced.
Others are asymmetrical.

In asymmetrical dynamics, one person provides emotional coherence, stability, clarity, or grounding—without reciprocal circulation. Over time, this creates invisible load.

Not a dramatic drain.
A constant redistribution of lift.

Nothing feels “toxic.”
Nothing feels overtly wrong.

Yet expansion slows.

The person carrying coherence becomes an anchor point for others, and altitude becomes shared—even when direction is not.

This Is Not About Cutting Ties

This is not about severing relationships, rejecting family, or withdrawing from the world.

It’s about recognizing how energy moves.

Growth does not require forceful separation.
It requires authorship.

When someone stops offering unconscious support—stops stabilizing systems they are no longer choosing to inhabit—the structure naturally adjusts.

Sometimes that adjustment is graceful.
Sometimes it’s uncomfortable.

Either way, what rises next is no longer capped by invisible agreement.

Authorship: The Role of the Frequency Architect

If the self is understood as a living system—a form of frequency architecture—then relationships function as structural elements within that design. Some support expansion. Others distribute load.

Recognizing the difference is not about blame or separation. It is about understanding how structure influences movement.

At a certain stage, growth stops being about healing and begins to be about design.

This is where the role of the Frequency Architect emerges—not as a title, but as a way of relating to reality.

A Frequency Architect understands that:

• energy follows structure
• belonging creates boundaries
• circulation determines sustainability
• altitude depends on load

The central question shifts.

Instead of “What’s wrong?”
It becomes “What am I authoring?”

Instead of trying to rise through effort, the work becomes identifying and releasing what was never meant to be carried.

What Happens When the Weight Is Released

When unconscious agreements dissolve, the rise is rarely dramatic.

It feels quieter than expected.

More ease.
Less effort.
Fewer negotiations.
Cleaner invitations.

Lift returns not because something was added—but because interference ended.

The cork rises.
The balloon ascends.
The system finds its native elevation.

A Closing Reflection

If you’ve felt capable of more but unable to reach it, the question may not be how to grow.

It may be where you are still agreeing to stay.

Expansion doesn’t always require courage.
Sometimes it requires clarity.

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Could dependence be the downfall of humanity? What do you depend on? For a second imagine a day in your life from the time you wake up, until the time you go to sleep. In each moment notice what it is that you depend on. If you are like many people, your list may look something like this:

I depend on my car to get me to work, my significant other to support me, my morning coffee to get me going, my exercise and healthy meals to keep me in good shape, my job for money, etc.

There are also other degrees of dependence. Those being heavier, such as I depend on my antidepressants to keep my mood stable, and those being lighter, such as I depend on my refrigerator to keep my food cold. 

How Does Dependence Affect Our Lives?

We all depend on something. It would be very difficult to live in this world if we did not. The purpose of this article is not to judge regarding levels of dependence, but to create a higher understanding of what dependence brings about in our lives, how it actually causes life to be more difficult, and our minds, bodies, and communities to become weaker.

People learn more about dependence when they are required to do without specific people or things in their lives. Codependents learn that they are dependent upon another individual, only in that individual’s absence or in the threat of their absence. The same could be said for drug addicts or alcoholics. Everything is fine when the substance is available, but dependence becomes very apparent when the substance is unavailable. 

The same could be said for religion. If a person were a devout Christian or Buddhist, what would happen if the Bible or the Tibetan Book of the Dead were unavailable? Would the religion still exist? Where would its principles come from? The religion is dependent upon the existence of the book, and the Christian or Buddhist is dependent upon the religion for the structure and principles of their lives. So had the books never been available, would the religions exist, and if they did, how would the followers know how to structure their lives?

How Dependence Promotes Laziness 

When you go to a restaurant you have a set menu from which to order. If there is not a burger on the menu, then the restaurant likely doesn’t have a burger. If you went to a restaurant and there was not a menu, you could order whatever you wanted, so what would you do? In this case you might order a burger, but the larger point is that a restaurant cannot offer you all of the choices. They could never stock enough to offer you everything available to eat. They probably could not have a chef available to make just anything that you wanted.

We, as a nation and a world, have become accustomed to “menus.” We have a difficult time functioning in the face of an unlimited choice, dependent on the menu to tell us what our choices are. People depend on society, religion, and culture to tell us our choices for acceptable attire, conduct, language, and just about everything we do. It is easy. We don’t have to, nor are we encouraged to, use imagination in the way that we live. If you dress like everyone else does then you never have to think about what you are going to wear. And more importantly, you are never encouraged to be creative.

You are never encouraged to do what some would call, “think outside of the box.” Some of us are able to make our boxes just a little bit bigger, but rarely, if ever, do we get out of them. Over time the creative muscles that could be used to be ourselves and create something brand new, become fatigued and dull. The mind, expecting choices, never has any reason to grow or create. 

How Dependence Promotes Loss of Individuality 

Being dependent also promotes loss of individuality. In the case above you can see that because societal, cultural and religious norms dictate the choices that are made, there is only room for a certain amount of variety. To an extent, everyone is the same, assuming they abide by the norms. Variation in norms will tend to come from a few outliers who are often ostracized before their variation is accepted as a new “norm.” So not only do we adhere to societal norms, but we demand them, exorcising anything that disrupts our rights as human beings to choose from a menu.

How Dependence Promotes Energy Depletion 

Would you eat your soup with a spoon? Would you cut down a tree with a steak knife? You could do both, but it would take a whole lot longer. It would, therefore, use much more of your energy than if you were to use the appropriate tool. When it comes to human beings what is our natural state? Is our natural state to be given choices and to be told what to do from the outside? Or is our natural state to create from within? The latter, of course, is the only answer.

Human beings have amazing energy and talents to flourish and create. What happens when a natural creative impulse is stifled by strict adherence to rules, philosophies, religions, and cultural norms? Well, first, more energy is expended doing what is unnatural compared to that which is natural. There is resistance to wanting to do something in a particular way, then having to do it in a way that is less comfortable and less efficient.

Have you ever been in a situation with an employer where they insist that you do something a particular way, even though you are aware of a better way? How do you feel when that happens? The resulting resentment and inefficient use of energy causes energy depletion. Imagine doing it 100 times a day or more. Imagine the energy loss that would occur then. And that is not too far from the truth when you look at an entire day of that type of energy expenditure.

How Dependence Promotes Separation and Conflict

The resentment referred to above gives us our next casualty of dependence, and that is separation. Encouragement to adhere to a strict set of rules, training to follow those rules, and investment in those rules leads to a group of people who become very unwilling to come out of their box.

Some religions or even gangs have certain initiations that make it difficult to get in, and, therefore, the adherence and insistence on the validity of the group is that much stronger. These groups then become separate from other groups, and the polarities in the adherence cause separation. That separation eventually leads to judgement and conflict, a sort of, “we are right and you are wrong.” We can see this all over the world today, in families, marriages, communities, religions, countries, etc., and the more fearful people get, the more they cling to dependence on people, groups, and religions outside of themselves. The cycle is very destructive. 

The Cure for Dependence

Dependence has a cure, and that is coming back into ourselves. Realizing that our own higher power, our own individual wisdom and knowledge within can provide the best answers for us. This path, however, at this point, is not an easy one to travel. Using our own internal power, after so long having neglected it, is not easy. But it can be done. 

Those who have served in our armed forces and retired spent 20 years being told what to do everyday. When they go home for the first time it is a huge adjustment that awaits them. When they no longer have someone telling them what to do, it must be very disconcerting to attempt to make choices for themselves, not having done so in so long. They move from a small box of choices, to a much larger box of choices. 

In the same way humanity can begin to move from that larger box of choices, to an even larger box of choices. We can do this by becoming in-dependent. Becoming independent is not about encouraging anarchy or rebellions, quite the opposite. It is about bringing the creative individuality into society that will heal our separation. Independence will give us the ability to stop judging others and to see the beauty in every individual. It will allow us to conserve our energy and come together to create greater solutions for our people and our planet. It will allow true freedom. 

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The best advice is this: Return to you! Continue reading to find out what exactly this means.

If you are reading this article, chances are that you, or someone you love is an empath too. I am an empath. I want to share a recent revelation, that what empaths are taught in terms of managing their energy is mostly wrong! 

Let’s start from the beginning. There is great suffering involved in feeling the emotions of others, attaching to others, and avoiding others, which are all habits empaths seem to have in common. The suffering is caused by the inability to regulate emotions which may or may not belong to them. The suffering is also caused by isolating, avoiding contact with others in order to cease having to feel a collective or individual undesirable feeling.

As an empath you may stop watching the news, stop seeing certain people, or engage in activities such as binge watching, that will consume your thoughts so you don’t have to feel the feelings associated with them. Empaths may isolate, have addictions or perhaps even all of the above. These behaviors are ultimately destructive (except not watching the news), and most empaths look for help. What is the first place that most empaths tend to seek help?

Spirituality 

Many, many empaths move into spiritual practice in order that they might alleviate the symptoms of their gift. Much of the new age spirituality teaches empaths a variety of practices that may be helpful, but they do not teach the most important tool that actually is helpful. Let me explain.

First and foremost, spirituality teaches meditation. The most common form of meditation is meditation with the goal to alleviate discomfort and stray thinking. This is helpful. However, many meditations move a person into higher spiritual states after awhile. This means that they transcend the lower chakras, or energy centers of the body, and tend to begin using mainly the upper chakras. The higher chakras are the chakras that tend to take us further out of our body, into the astral or ethereal planes. For an empath this is the exact opposite of what is helpful. But before I explain why, I’d like to address another practice that is taught to empaths.

Many spiritual advisors also tell empaths to “protect” themselves. As an empath, did you find that this doesn’t work very well? Here’s why: Often this requires some kind of an energetic field or created boundary. Holding up this boundary requires energy. Most empaths are deficient in energy, as they are using much of it to process the emotions of others. As spiritually advanced as most may be, there only is a certain amount of energy that can flow through, and into the human energy system every day.

Empaths have a harder time with flow than those who are not empaths, because empathy usually comes with energetic blocks. Empaths commonly have a history of trauma, which creates energetic blocks in the body. When not cleared, these blocks prevent energy from flowing properly through the channels in the body. Thus empaths may be expending more, and receiving less energy than the average person.

How is Empathy Created?

In order to fully understand why we need the technique I am about to offer, it is important to understand the way empathy is created and how it works. As a child most empaths were exposed to traumatic situations, including, abandonment, and/or psychic, emotional or physical abuse. Due to the situations they found themselves in, survival instinct kicked the brains ability to use mirror neurons into high gear. You know how a parent feeding their infant will open their mouth when putting the spoon to the child’s mouth? That is an example of mirroring.

The child learns how to eat through mirroring their parents behavior. In empathy, the child mirrors the parent in the same way, but the purpose is to understand their environment to know if danger may be around the corner. And eventually the mirroring technique will extend to their whole environment and all of those they know, in order to keep themselves safe. 

When this process occurs the empath not only senses the danger, but also tends to feel the feelings associated with the mirrored person’s emotions. Imagine being in a room full of people and experiencing the emotions of each of them, just to find out if you are safe! If you are an empath, that is likely what you are doing. No wonder you don’t enjoy crowds, right?!

It just so happens that the process of mirroring is a process that requires an empath to be outside of their body. It requires their consciousness to extend to the mirrored person’s consciousness, in order to get the information it desires. This process of being out of body for a typical empath, in most cases, has been occurring for decades unchecked! That means the feeling feels natural. Many empaths, therefore, might not even know what it feels like to feel grounded and in their own body. 

You know that feeling you get in a relationship when you lose yourself? I can see all empaths shaking their head yes right now. That feeling is the feeling of actually “becoming” the other person in your relationship. And the caveat to that, is that you are “losing” yourself when you are becoming the other person, through mirroring. So what happens when you lose that person? You feel as if you are losing yourself. It is devastating and heartbreaking. The best way to relieve yourself of this heartbreak is to move back into your own body, return to you.

What TO Do – Return to You

Despite the popular advice, my advice to empaths, and the advice that works for me, is to ground and inhabit your own body like you’ve never inhabited it before. Return to you! Inhabit all the parts of you including your bones, your feet, your legs, your arms. Call your energy back to you. Engage in a creative project or activity that you absolutely love. When you find yourself wondering how another person is, or whether they might contact you, call your energy back to yourself. Start thinking about your own body and your own feelings.

Meditate on your lower three chakras, calling the energy back into them. See your root, your sacral and your solar plexus. Fill them up with energy and light. See your feet rooted in the earth. Feel the sensations inside your body, inside you organs. Listen to the beat of your heart, and focus on the rhythm of your own breath. Breathe energy into your body, into every single part of it. Return to you! Open your palms and call the energy back to you, breathe in, then take your palms to your heart while allowing your heart to take in the energy. Notice the separation between yourself and the things around you. See that the walls are separate from you, the windows are separate from you, and the floor is separate from you. Notice that the trees are separate. You can reach out to them and they are not you. 

These practices might sound different than the typical spiritual practices we perform in meditation. Much of what we are taught to do is see ourselves in the quantum field “as” everything else. I am the chair, I am the cup etc. We are taught to transcend our bodies and to transcend our lower needs to seek God.  And these are valuable practices, but not necessarily to the suffering empath. There is a time and a place for every practice. And remember, we are human beings right here and now, and there is not a place that God is not! When you return to you, you do not lose your spirituality.

Warning: This Works!

This new practice that causes you to return to you, also comes with a bit of a warning. Those who were depending on you mirroring them, who were depending on the energy that comes with receiving yummy empathic energy, will notice. They may attempt reconnection or seek you out. At that point it is most obviously your choice on what to do with your energy. At least by this point you will know how amazing it feels to be you, to love you and to honor you for exactly who you are! And at anytime you choose you can always Return to You!

By 

Tammie Mohn, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist
Empowering You

For more information regarding your Empowerment, contact me for your free consultation 

Some concepts and information gained in this article came from the following:

Aaron Doughty
Laura Graye

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